Managing emotions at workplace

Most of us do not want to face any kind difficult situations that may arise in our workplace.I bet you agree with me. We are pampered by our parents and we have been facing only happiness and things would happen the way we want them during our college and school days. But, after entering the new world called 'Workplace', we are forced to face the challenges and the difficulties that they offer. Almost 90% of us find it hard to master the emotional imbalance that we experience in our workplace.

Why is managing emotions an important skill today?

It's primarily because there's more of it now than in the past. Workers of all types are more likely to speak up for their own ideas or actions, rather than follow the dictating corporate chain of command. Conflict also sometimes arises as a result of unclear company goals, or when those goals aren't shared equally by all. Rather than working for a single common good, employees and managers seek individual goals, such as promotion, job security, experience, money. Also people with different attitude, culture and habbits work for the same target as a team.This also contributes a lot for conflicts, which in turn requires managing emotions.

Now let us get deep into how we can go about in managing our emotions in workplace. Knowing the importance of emotions, we have to give our atmost effort in controlling and mastering them.

Sit back and analyse what incidents/actions put you in a position where your emotions take control.Write them down in a paper. For example,

a.I get frustrated when Iam not recogonised for the work I have done.

b.I get angry when my team member does not complete the alloted work on time.

c.I feel like crying when my superior blasts me for a small mistake.

Let us analyse these 3 examples.We can put in similar approach for any kind of problem that we are likely to face in our workplace. In our first example, the emotion taken for discussion is 'Frustration'. This is the most common emotion that most of us undergo. There are two ways to approch this. First one... though we feel that we have done a good job, our boss might not be satisfied with our performance. He would have expected more from us and this would have lead in delay in our recogonision. This would be the reason most of the times. The best way to handle this scenario is to have a 'One to One' with our boss. Ask him/her to set your goals clearly.This would solve 70% of the problem. Also ask your boss to define his expections on you. You must make sure that you create a visibility for what you have done for the project/company.This ensures that your boss is aware of what you have been doing and makes you get noticed within your team. The second one is self recogonision. When you feel proud of what you have achieved you will not expect anyone to appreciate this accomplishment of yours.Your innerself will be your boss and will boost your confidence, productivity and your self esteem. If you practise the second method, you can easily control and manage your emotions.Most of us will prefere to go by the first method,though.

Moving on to our second and thrird examples. We can look at them together;as in one situation you are the boss and in another you are a team member.Same person performing both the roles will give a clear idea of how a boss thinks and how a team member thinks. When you come accross a situation like this, the best option is to look at that incident from a third person's view. DO NOT make the mistake of putting yourself into others shoe, in this case as a team member (in example 2) and as a boss (in example 3).This will surely add on to the problem and will never solve the problem. We are working as a team and we will obviously have different kinds of people with different attitudes. We will have a team member who is more proactive and do all the work before even telling him/her to do. However, we will also have members who needs driving. Knowing this we will have to handle the situation givin in our example 2 and 3. When you expect a behaviour from your subordinate, you must be aware that the same kind of behaviour will be expected from you. This thought will help you in managing your emotions.

We might face different situations in our workplace that ignites our emotions. But most of the time it will be only the emotions that i have discussed here. If we know the way to control and manage these emotions, we will be able to control and manage any other emotion that tries to dominate us in workplace. Hope this was helpful for you. Do drop in your suggessions at http://mindmanage.blogspot.com/