Negative Emotions - Throw them away!!

The term "Negative Emotions" implies all those emotions which are negative in character. They prevent us from seeing and accepting the life situations naturally. "Negative Emotions" are primarily responsible for gradual declination or downfall of our normal thinking process, which is essential for our natural (unforced) survival, even in the struggle for existence!

Continuous accumulation of negative emotions within the mind for a longer period of time can pervert our entire persona and can badly hamper the health and happiness. At earlier stages, negative emotions get backdoor entry with stealthy steps and later on entraps the mind wholly, affecting the physical body badly. Behavioral Negativities --like fear, shame, guilt, arrogance, envy, jealousy, greed, phobia and many other like that-- are considered to be an expression of "Negative Emotions"

As said above, there are various ways of expressing negative emotions like jealousy, anger, envy, greed, sloth, shame, guilt etc. Even the pleasant things in excess like over-enthusiasm, passions, elations or even certain forms of love, can also generate negative emotions. Despite being of no use to us, negative emotions are tremendously powerful. They can debilitate our lives extremely quick. A life-long friendship may come to an end with few words; suspicion or doubting the moral character of partner may lead to divorce or make disastrous choices, because we are out to prove something.

Disturbance in thought pattern over a longer period of time affects the body systems and gradually causes imbalance in our energy system, which triggers a sequence of physiological activities (body) OR symptoms that ultimately culminates in ill-health. Simple things may also affect our psyche badly. A cold, a headache, a late night or a missed meal; is all enough to severely alter our behavior. We may be irritated by far less than usual. We may feel tearful even at the slightest pressure. This can be controlled if we could remember the limitations of our innate nature, as well as our innate capacity to alleviate the surge of reigning negative emotions, so as to face the life situations correctly.

Either in an impulsive passion as well as in a quiet manner, negative emotions can be expressed.

Rage, anger, arrogance, uncontrolled desire, and violence, as well as self-pity, melancholy, loneliness, boredom, dissatisfaction, inadequacy or envy are few of the most common examples of expressing negative emotions.

We should not fool ourselves that saying we do not want to stop being negative means we could stop if we wanted to. We have no control, and cannot choose not to be negative.

Giving up the behavioral negativity is part of the price we pay for awakening. We have to give up something if we wish to make space for something new in our lives. We can hardly be receptive to higher forces when we are busy in criticizing or quipping others. Purging Negative emotions from the core of psyche at proper timing is the most crucial decision. Well-balanced nature, and a rational or optimistic attitude towards life leads to positive self-image and in turn, satisfying relationships with friends and others. Please remember, your innate nature and general behavioral traits dominates your thoughts, feelings, and mental make-up that affect your overall life. Having emotionally balanced nature and pragmatic attitude help you make good decisions and deal with life's challenges at home and workplace. We cannot learn to swim if we fall in the sea during a storm. We must learn swimming in a calm water. Then perhaps if we fall in we'll be able to swim. Obviously, deal with negative emotions becomes easier when we see that our repertoire of negative emotions is quite limited.

Although not scientifically -but broadly- general negativities are classified as:

1.Teenagers Negatives
2.Childhood Negatives
3.Student Negatives
4.At Mental Level
5.At Physical Level

To learn more about these negatives do visit 'www.charminghealth.com'.

Managing emotions at workplace

Most of us do not want to face any kind difficult situations that may arise in our workplace.I bet you agree with me. We are pampered by our parents and we have been facing only happiness and things would happen the way we want them during our college and school days. But, after entering the new world called 'Workplace', we are forced to face the challenges and the difficulties that they offer. Almost 90% of us find it hard to master the emotional imbalance that we experience in our workplace.

Why is managing emotions an important skill today?

It's primarily because there's more of it now than in the past. Workers of all types are more likely to speak up for their own ideas or actions, rather than follow the dictating corporate chain of command. Conflict also sometimes arises as a result of unclear company goals, or when those goals aren't shared equally by all. Rather than working for a single common good, employees and managers seek individual goals, such as promotion, job security, experience, money. Also people with different attitude, culture and habbits work for the same target as a team.This also contributes a lot for conflicts, which in turn requires managing emotions.

Now let us get deep into how we can go about in managing our emotions in workplace. Knowing the importance of emotions, we have to give our atmost effort in controlling and mastering them.

Sit back and analyse what incidents/actions put you in a position where your emotions take control.Write them down in a paper. For example,

a.I get frustrated when Iam not recogonised for the work I have done.

b.I get angry when my team member does not complete the alloted work on time.

c.I feel like crying when my superior blasts me for a small mistake.

Let us analyse these 3 examples.We can put in similar approach for any kind of problem that we are likely to face in our workplace. In our first example, the emotion taken for discussion is 'Frustration'. This is the most common emotion that most of us undergo. There are two ways to approch this. First one... though we feel that we have done a good job, our boss might not be satisfied with our performance. He would have expected more from us and this would have lead in delay in our recogonision. This would be the reason most of the times. The best way to handle this scenario is to have a 'One to One' with our boss. Ask him/her to set your goals clearly.This would solve 70% of the problem. Also ask your boss to define his expections on you. You must make sure that you create a visibility for what you have done for the project/company.This ensures that your boss is aware of what you have been doing and makes you get noticed within your team. The second one is self recogonision. When you feel proud of what you have achieved you will not expect anyone to appreciate this accomplishment of yours.Your innerself will be your boss and will boost your confidence, productivity and your self esteem. If you practise the second method, you can easily control and manage your emotions.Most of us will prefere to go by the first method,though.

Moving on to our second and thrird examples. We can look at them together;as in one situation you are the boss and in another you are a team member.Same person performing both the roles will give a clear idea of how a boss thinks and how a team member thinks. When you come accross a situation like this, the best option is to look at that incident from a third person's view. DO NOT make the mistake of putting yourself into others shoe, in this case as a team member (in example 2) and as a boss (in example 3).This will surely add on to the problem and will never solve the problem. We are working as a team and we will obviously have different kinds of people with different attitudes. We will have a team member who is more proactive and do all the work before even telling him/her to do. However, we will also have members who needs driving. Knowing this we will have to handle the situation givin in our example 2 and 3. When you expect a behaviour from your subordinate, you must be aware that the same kind of behaviour will be expected from you. This thought will help you in managing your emotions.

We might face different situations in our workplace that ignites our emotions. But most of the time it will be only the emotions that i have discussed here. If we know the way to control and manage these emotions, we will be able to control and manage any other emotion that tries to dominate us in workplace. Hope this was helpful for you. Do drop in your suggessions at http://mindmanage.blogspot.com/

Principles of Christian Dream Interpretation

There are lot many ways that a dream could be interpreted. Each religion has its own way of dream interpretation. In this article we will see how a dream is interpreted in Christianity. I have taken quotes from ‘The Bible’ and also have referred an e-book ‘Principles of Christian Dream Interpretation’. This article gives the gist from the book.

Dream - “A sequence of images, etc. passing through a sleeping person’s mind”.

Sleep laboratories have proven that everyone dreams one to two hours each night during a certain period of sleep known as alpha level, which is light sleep. Every 90-minute cycle of sleep begins with alpha, and then goes into deeper sleep which is called theta, and finally deepest sleep which is called delta. At the close of the first 90-minute cycle each night, the individual returns to alpha level sleep, where he has a short, five-minute dream period. The next time he cycles up to alpha, he has a ten-minute dream period. The third time in alpha, the dream period is about 15 minutes, and so on. If one sleeps a full eight hours, the entire last hour is essentially spent in alpha level sleep. Thus, the average person sleeping for eight hours a night will dream about one to two hours of that time.

Alpha level sleep is where one has what is called Rapid Eye Movement (REM). Rapid Eye Movement is exactly what it sounds like: the eyes of the dreamer begin moving rapidly. He is actually watching the scenes in the dream, and thus his eyes are literally moving back and forth, observing the action. By observing the alpha level sleep when Rapid Eye Movement occurs, researchers in sleep laboratories have determined when a person is dreaming and how much time is spent dreaming in an average night.

Dreams can be considered guardians of our mental and emotional well-being!

It is believed that GOD speaks to us through dreams. He guides and counsels us through
our dreams. He establishes covenants with us through our dreams. It is said that we must believe in dreams. Most dreams are symbolic (including biblical dreams), so view them the same way you would view a political cartoon. Throw the switch in your brain that says, “Look at this symbolically.”

At least 95% of your dreams will be about you – your inner self, your current situation, and your relationships. Your dreams come from your heart and will express the things that are important to your heart. The most common area your spirit will reveal will be your emotional, heart struggles and sanctification issues, expressed symbolically. Actions in the dream are to be viewed symbolically. If your dream wanted to really show you that you were going to die, it would picture that event symbolically. For example, just a few days before his assassination, President Lincoln dreamed of a casket.


 The people in your dreams often represent characteristics within you.

 Animals often represent your emotions

 Numbers in dreams generally represent the identical number in real life.


When interpreting dreams, we must look for metaphors, similes, and metonymies of our language. Dreaming about ketchup may be calling you to “catch up” in some area. A fire may be trying to warn you that you are “playing with fire.”

There is lot more how Christianity Interprets dreams. For more information read the book ‘Principles of Christian Dream Interpretation’.

Swami Vivekananda's laws for peaceful mind.

Araise, Awake, stop not till the goal is reached!!!

I always wonder why people have jealousy, anger and many qualities that will bring down his/her growth. But, sometimes I myself will be controlled by these kinds of emotions. Though we all know the consequences of these feelings we are bound to become a slave for them. If you all have the same feeling as I have, to overcome these emotions and control them, go ahead and read the following 15 laws preached by Swami Vivekananda.

What You Need to Keep in Mind?

1. Love Is the Law of Life: All love is expansion, all selfishness is contraction. Love is therefore the only law of life. He who loves lives, he who is selfish is dying. Therefore, love for love's sake, because it is law of life, just as you breathe to live.

2. It's Your Outlook That Matters: It is our own mental attitude, which makes the world what it is for us. Our thoughts make things beautiful, our thoughts make things ugly. The whole world is in our own minds. Learn to see things in the proper light.

3. Life is Beautiful: First, believe in this world - that there is meaning behind everything. Everything in the world is good, is holy and beautiful. If you see something evil, think that you do not understand it in the right light. Throw the burden on yourselves!

4. It's The Way You Feel: Feel like Christ and you will be a Christ; feel like Buddha and you will be a Buddha. It is feeling that is the life, the strength, the vitality, without which no amount of intellectual activity can reach God.

5. Set Yourself Free: The moment I have realised God sitting in the temple of every human body, the moment I stand in reverence before every human being and see God in him - that moment I am free from bondage, everything that binds vanishes, and I am free.

6. Don't Play The Blame Game: Condemn none: if you can stretch out a helping hand, do so. If you cannot, fold your hands, bless your brothers, and let them go their own way.

7. Help Others: If money helps a man to do good to others, it is of some value; but if not, it is simply a mass of evil, and the sooner it is got rid of, the better.

8. Uphold Your Ideals: Our duty is to encourage every one in his struggle to live up to his own highest idea, and strive at the same time to make the ideal as near as possible to the Truth.

9. Listen To Your Soul: You have to grow from the inside out. None can teach you, none can make you spiritual. There is no other teacher but your own soul.

10. Be Yourself: The greatest religion is to be true to your own nature. Have faith in yourselves!

11. Nothing Is Impossible: Never think there is anything impossible for the soul. It is the greatest heresy to think so. If there is sin, this is the only sin - to say that you are weak, or others are weak.

12. You Have The Power: All the powers in the universe are already ours. It is we who have put our hands before our eyes and cry that it is dark.

13. Learn Everyday: The goal of mankind is knowledge... now this knowledge is inherent in man. No knowledge comes from outside: it is all inside. What we say a man 'knows', should, in strict psychological language, be what he 'discovers' or 'unveils'; what man 'learns' is really what he discovers by taking the cover off his own soul, which is a mine of infinite knowledge.

14. Be Truthful: Everything can be sacrificed for truth, but truth cannot be sacrificed for anything.

15. Think Different: All differences in this world are of degree, and not of kind, because oneness is the secret of everything.

Are Dreams controlled by Mind?

DREAMS!!! What they convey to us????

It has always been a mystery to understand our dreams. Sometime we get dreams wherein we are in some kind of a wonderland and immediately following that we will get some horror dream…some kind of ghosts following us and spying on us…puzzled and scared we find us in our bed hugging our pillow. Is it not true? I don’t know about you guys, but I have this kind of experience many times. And to my surprise, I get a particular dream very often and even when I am awake, I will be able to narrate my dream to my friends...it’s so close to me…

I wanted to find reasons for all these and then I started searching for dream analysis books and stuff like that and here is an article about the language of dreams that I found in web written by ‘Aura Wright’ and would like to share with you.

Using the Language of Dreams is the Key to Success

Using the language of dreams can show us the way to achieve both our waking dreams and our greatest satisfaction in life. The landscape of dreams the sort we have at night when we are sleeping can hold the key to unlock our greatest human potential.

But the language is tricky. Its not quite like solving a math problem. Its more like solving a riddle or those picture puzzles that you played with in school. Remember, they were set up to show a series of pictures and symbols and you were supposed to piece them together in order to solve the puzzle. It might show something like: (a picture of an eye) 8 2 (a picture of a bird) grrr. This particular puzzle would mean, I ate two burgers. These types of puzzles use phonetics, pictures and symbols all combined to convey a meaning that makes sense once it is strung together into one message.

This sort of language and the tools you need to understand it can be learned with some specific techniques.

The example above is very similar to the way that the unconscious sends messages, signals and information to your conscious mind. The conscious mind the part of you that is aware and reading these words has learned to communicate in specific linear ways. It is very logic and language oriented, and it appears to be factual. This is how our culture has developed and evolved. The unconscious however, usually speaks to us through the right brain. The right brain is all about images, color, symbol and metaphor. It can be very literal as well. But it is not logical and linear that is the domain of the left-brain.

Dream interpretation, therapy, psychotherapy and advertising such as what you see on TV or a billboard on the side of the road are all aimed at either understanding, changing or manipulating the language of your right brain. The reason for this is simple, when we work directly with the right or symbolic brain, there is no resistance, and it is usually more truthful. It is truthful precisely because it is symbolic and takes things literally. It does not have language capacity to trick or cover up information from itself or anyone else. This is why therapy is effective. When we (or a therapist) can read the symbolic language your unconscious is speaking often without your knowledge then that therapist can speak back and help work out conflicts, desires, or fears that emerge in the language of symbol.

In much the same way, mainstream advertising; magazines, television, billboards are all aimed at convincing your subconscious to make a positive parallel between a favorable emotion or desire and their product. This is why you see beautiful smiling young people holding up beer glasses. Unconsciously you associate positive feelings or desires with the product. It doesnt matter if you are smart, or onto their technique, the imagination is captured, and the advertisement has done its job. The instant you become aware of the advertising campaign, you can make a decision as to what you want to do with that information you always have free will.

It is extremely useful to educate yourself to the language that your own symbolic brain is using. This is why I wrote "The Golden Path. a book and workbook about personal development and harnessing the power of the unconscious mind. Your mind holds the keys to whatever you want, need, desire and hope to accomplish even if those things are not in the realm of your waking awareness. Try keeping a dream journal, or taking time to listen for pictures, images and symbols that may emerge from your inner mind. These are keys, and they can unlock the inner meaning of personal happiness for you.

You can learn to become more aware of this symbolic language, and through this awareness you will begin to have mastery over it and yourself. To learn more visit: http://www.goldenpathbook.com.

More to come on dream analysis…WATCH OUT!!!

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